Your love language

On this page you will find a test on the subject of love. This test only shows a short excerpt and serves only as an initial orientation. It gives you an indication of your result. We offer the full test and a detailed analysis in our coaching sessions and events.

Find your love language

Please select one of the two options for each question.

Question 1

A) When my partner writes me love letters, it makes me feel good.
E) When my partner puts his/her arm around me, it makes me feel good.

Your primary love language - instructions for evaluation

Count how many A, B, C, D and E answers you have. The answer category that you chose most often indicates your primary love language.

A = Praise and recognition
B = Togetherness
C = Gifts
D = Helpfulness
E = Tenderness

Question 2

B) I really like being alone with my partner.
D) When my partner does a chore for me, like washing the car, I feel loved.

Question 3

C) I am very happy to receive gifts from my partner.
B) I enjoy long car journeys with my partner.

Question 4

D) I feel loved when my partner does some of the housework.
E) I like it when my partner touches me.

Question 5

E) I feel loved when my partner lovingly massages my shoulders.
C) I know that my partner loves me because he/she regularly surprises me with gifts.

Question 6

B) It means a lot to me to go for a walk with my partner.
E) I like holding hands with my partner.

Question 7

C) The gifts I receive from my partner always mean a lot to me.
A) I like to hear my partner say that he/she loves me.

Question 8

E) I like it when my partner sits close to me.
A) When my partner tells me that I'm pretty, it makes me feel good.

Question 9

B) When I spend time with my partner, I am happy.
C) Even the smallest gift from my partner means something to me.

Question 10

A) I feel loved when my partner tells me how proud he/she is of me.
D) When my partner helps me around the house, I know how important I am to him/her.

Question 11

B) No matter what we do - the main thing is that we do it together.
A) I feel good when my partner cheers me up.

Question 12

D) Favors from my partner mean more to me than a thousand words.
E) I like to take my partner in my arms.

Question 13

A) Praise from my partner means a lot to me.
C) It means a lot to me when my partner makes an effort to give me what I want.

Question 14

B) As soon as my partner is nearby, I feel comfortable.
E) I like it when my partner massages my back.

Question 15

A) The way my partner reacts when I have achieved something is always an incentive for me.
D) It means a lot to me when my partner does something for me that he/she doesn't like doing him/herself.

Question 16

E) I can never get enough of my partner kissing me.
B) I like it when my partner is interested in my work.

Question 17

D) I can rely on my partner to give me advice and support.
C) I still get excited when I unwrap a present from my partner.

Question 18

A) It makes me proud when my partner tells me that I look good.
B) I am happy when my partner listens to me in peace.

Question 19

E) When my partner is around, I can't help but touch him/her.
D) My partner always takes care of things for me, and I really appreciate that.

Question 20

D) My partner actually deserves a prize for being so helpful.
C) I'm always amazed at how much thought my partner puts into something before he/she gives it to me.

Question 21

B) I really blossom when my partner gives me his/her undivided attention .
D) Helping me with annoying everyday tasks is one of the greatest acts of love that my partner can do for me.

Question 22

C) I'm really excited to see what my partner will give me for my birthday.
A) I can never get too much of it when my partner tells me what an important role I play in his/her life.

Question 23

C) When my partner gives me something, I know that he/she loves me.
D) My partner shows me love by helping me without me having to ask for it.

Question 24

B) My partner doesn't interrupt me when I'm talking and I really appreciate that.
C) I can never get enough gifts from him/her.

Question 25

D) My partner sees straight away when I can no longer cope. And then he/she immediately stands by my side. That's nice.
B) I don't care where we go or drive - the main thing is that we are together.

Question 26

E) I feel loved when we make love.
C) I love being surprised by my partner with gifts.

Question 27

A) It gives me strength when my partner praises me.
B) I like going to the movies with my partner.

Question 28

C) My partner has a sense of what I sometimes secretly want. And I think that's great.
E) When my partner is nearby, I have a strong desire to touch him/her.

Question 29

D) It means a lot to me when my partner helps me even though he/she has enough to do.
A) It makes me feel great when my partner tells me how much I mean to him/her.

Question 30

E) When we've been apart for a while, I can hardly wait to hug and kiss my partner.
A) I like it when my partner tells me that he has missed me.